Living in Cohousing

Our community expects all who become members and all in their households to adhere to the following list of Respect and Responsibility.

Seven Areas of Respect.

  1. Physical respect. Respect personal boundaries. Refrain from violence.
  2. Emotional respect. Respect other peoples feelings and emotions.
  3. Verbal respect. Be honest. Listen to others. Hear what they are saying to you.
  4. Territorial respect. Respect right to privacy, solitude, quiet, negotiate use of common spaces.
  5. Material respect. Care for personal, communal and community property.
  6. Respect for Diversity. Respect diversity of age, sex, racial origins, sexual orientation, spiritual practices and beliefs (including none), physical and mental capabilities.
  7. Respect for community structure and decision-making process.

Seven areas of responsibility.

  1. Attend and participate in community meetings
  2. Communicate your ideas and feelings
  3. Contribute time and energy to community tasks
  4. Serve on committees and teams
  5. Fulfill financial obligations; seek early help with financial problems
  6. Inform community about guests staying for extended periods, changes in individual circumstances
  7. Inform others about any violence and violations of these “R&Rs”

Who does well in our community setting?

  1. People who are fulfilled and doing well in their lives. (People not looking for this to “fix” something.)
  2. Someone with a healthy sense of self.
  3. Someone open to and able to hear other points of view. (Someone used to being in charge and having their way is often frustrated in a community setting, until they become more comfortable ith a group process.)
  4. Some who feels a connection to people and is concerned about the well-being of others.
  5. Someone willing to abide by group agreements and processes.
  6. Someone willing to speakup and take initiative.
  7. Someone willing to be quiet and listen (in order to give others their due opportunity to express opinions.
  8. Someone who is happy, positive, optimistic and enjoys life.

Adapted from Creating a Life Together by Diane Leaf Christian c. 2003, New Society Publishers. B.C. Canada.