Our community expects all who become members and all in their households to adhere to the following list of Respect and Responsibility.
Seven Areas of Respect.
- Physical respect. Respect personal boundaries. Refrain from violence.
- Emotional respect. Respect other peoples feelings and emotions.
- Verbal respect. Be honest. Listen to others. Hear what they are saying to you.
- Territorial respect. Respect right to privacy, solitude, quiet, negotiate use of common spaces.
- Material respect. Care for personal, communal and community property.
- Respect for Diversity. Respect diversity of age, sex, racial origins, sexual orientation, spiritual practices and beliefs (including none), physical and mental capabilities.
- Respect for community structure and decision-making process.
Seven areas of responsibility.
- Attend and participate in community meetings
- Communicate your ideas and feelings
- Contribute time and energy to community tasks
- Serve on committees and teams
- Fulfill financial obligations; seek early help with financial problems
- Inform community about guests staying for extended periods, changes in individual circumstances
- Inform others about any violence and violations of these “R&Rs”
Who does well in our community setting?
- People who are fulfilled and doing well in their lives. (People not looking for this to “fix” something.)
- Someone with a healthy sense of self.
- Someone open to and able to hear other points of view. (Someone used to being in charge and having their way is often frustrated in a community setting, until they become more comfortable ith a group process.)
- Some who feels a connection to people and is concerned about the well-being of others.
- Someone willing to abide by group agreements and processes.
- Someone willing to speakup and take initiative.
- Someone willing to be quiet and listen (in order to give others their due opportunity to express opinions.
- Someone who is happy, positive, optimistic and enjoys life.
Adapted from Creating a Life Together by Diane Leaf Christian c. 2003, New Society Publishers. B.C. Canada.